Personalised Funeral Service
A personalised funeral service can be done in many different ways and at Roseberry Funeral Service we aim to offer you that personalised service that you and your loved ones deserve. This is the second of two parts looking at the ways that this can be achieved.
Coffin choice – Selecting the coffin can be one of the hardest parts of a funeral arrangement. It is such a personal choice and with whatever coffin or casket you choose, will represent the person for whom it is intended. There are many styles, types and materials that will enable you to make it personal. Wood types can differ greatly from oak, elm, mahogany, maple and cherry all from light to dark. There are many different styles and ornaments that can be added to personalise the coffin as well as the interior linings colour.
Apart from a traditional coffin there is now a much greater selection of coffins. Bamboo, banana leaf, Seagrass, Willow are all a natural alternative. These types are very popular for a natural or woodland burial but are not restricted to these.
For others that are looking for something a little different then there are the soft wool coffins, the eco-friendly cardboard coffins and the endless choice of the reflections range. Within the reflections range the exterior of the coffin can have on any design of your choosing. There are set designs to choose from but if you were looking for something in particular to adorn the coffin then this would be a very good choice.
Caskets are traditionally, and only recommended, for burials. There is a wide range of caskets to choose from for every style and to suit all individuals.
Burial site – When looking at burials there are four main areas to consider:
• Church yard – Many church yards are now full but it is worth discussing this with the local minister
• Cemetery – These can be run through the council or by a private firm.
• Woodland/natural – Most are run through private firms and offer a range. There are restrictions within the woodland and natural burial sites.
• At sea – Around 50 people each year are buried at sea. There are three places within the UK that allow this but there are restrictions that apply.
When considering the burial plot of yourself if pre-purchasing, or for a loved one on their passing, think about the person, having somewhere to visit, the memorial and the cost.
If the deceased did not want to be buried then there is always the option for cremation and then burial of ashes at any one of the burial sites listed above. These are just some of the burial sites for ashes that can be considered.
Committal first – One aspect of a funeral service that has started to change is the committal part of the service. This is where the deceased is committed to be buried or cremated. Increasingly people are opting for the committal to take place first and then the service side to be carried out at Church or place of worship. There are benefits and negatives to this that need to be considered and discussed with everyone involved.
For anyone considering this I would always recommend that they make it understood to everyone that the coffin will not be at the service. A newspaper announcement is the perfect opportunity to do this.
Symbolic releases – There are many ways to symbolise the life of someone at the service and can be a very poignant moment in the proceedings. The releasing of doves, balloons and Chinese lanterns can create a very special moment and also helps to involve others within the funeral service.
Get clubs involved – If they were a member of a club or organisation then why not ask them to be involved. I have seen this on many occasions and it is always heart-warming and very special to see. Personally I have seen tributes from organisations such as the British Legion, Scouts even a marching band.
Online memorials – There are many free online memorial website and your funeral director should be able to help you with this. At Roseberry Funeral Service we have a partnership with MuchLoved. With an online memorial, which can be set up before or after the funeral, this gives a place to show who that person was, to give details about their life, to light a candle in their honour, and for others to leave messages and write their own memories.
It’s a hard subject to discuss, but I thoroughly recommend that you all discuss with your loved ones the kind of service that you would like, including all the personal touches that would do you proud.